have you read the five love languages? it was all the rage when it first came out. i read the book but i recently retook the profile quiz to refresh my memory on what my love languages are. in case you aren’t familiar, the five languages identified in the book are acts of service, physical touch, …
it’s not what you want, it’s what you need
sometimes we fail to get the correct answer because we keep asking the wrong question. growing up, i was an uber planner. well, more like a perfectionist. i was a classic perfectionist. i performed for people because i wanted them to approve of me. i wanted their validation. i did more than what was required. i worked harder …
preserving my sacred spaces
a few months ago, someone told me i was in “reclaiming identity” mode. i had shared an experience that caught me off guard and i didn’t know what to make of it. after an extended conversation, we ended with reclaiming identity. i didn’t really know what to make of that either. at 37, i was pretty …
is your no selfish or selfless?
no one wants to be accused of being selfish. sure, sometimes we want to place ourselves first, but we would never openly show little disregard for another’s feelings. say it with me, “we care!” full disclosure, my dad actually called me selfish on christmas because i mentioned that i’m not keen on having children. i’ve …
self care is more sacred than a to-do list
i was packing up my stuff for the night and doing a mental list of all the things i still needed to get done before the night was over for both work and personal life, and i just had to stop in my tracks. i am in need of quality self care right now. it’s …